Sunday, June 20, 2010

Five no-no's

Being in a relationship, is a fulltime job. A relationship is a verb, not a noun. It needs your attention on a daily basis. Too often, you have no time for the other half and life becomes a rut. Is there something you can do to keep your relationship healthy and sane? Of course..
Let me give you 5 no-no's, 5 things you shouldn't do if you want to continue living with your partner.

  • Don't blame him for whatever goes wrong in your relationship. It just can't be his fault all the time. There must be a more constructive way to solve issues.
  • Told you so!!! This sentence is spoken way too often. What's the use in trying to convince the other, that he was wrong and you were right..? The damage has been done anyway and there's no way you can rewind it. So don't patronize your partner by telling him you knew the outcome from the beginning.
  • I hate you for..! Never ever attack your partner in front of other people. It's not of their concern to hear you pick on him. Don't even hate your partner. There may be things you don't like about his behavior, but that doesn't mean you hate him as a person. Hate is ugly.
  • Why do you always.. or how come you never...? Life is not just black or white. There are so many shades in between. It's not fair to blame your partner for whatever goes wrong. It may be better to focus on the things that do go right.
  • Don't ask for his opinion if you don't plan on following through with it. Ever heard a woman ask her husband which dress he wants her to wear? He picks out the red dress and immediately she trashes the red one and picks the black dress. It's not very good for his self esteem if you act like this..

I plead guilty to all 5 accusations.

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