Friday, August 28, 2009

Spank me

Did your child ever ask you to spank him? I have never heard of any child asking to be spanked.. I was truly amazed to watch this show on American schools that are convinced that spanking is a correct way of disciplining children. Over here, spanking was allowed in the old days. Now it is unthinkable that any teacher would spank a child! You would be on the news if you would ever lay your hands on a student, no matter what that student had done or what trouble he had got himself into. By no means is spanking allowed. So I was shocked to hear that the US approves of this. How can spanking be of any good? Do you feel you would be better off if your boss or your husband would spank you whenever you did something they didn't approve of? This really makes me sad.. Nobody is allowed to spank anybody else or abuse them in any way. Who gives us the right to hit other people and especially children? How could they ever defend themselves? We want our children to grow up to be responsible adults that are good to the people around them. And we would spank them in order to do so?? It just doesn't make sense.. I can't understand people still believe that spanking a child with a paddle is the right way to discipline. What happened with positive reinforcement? What's wrong with that? Why would we always point out negative characteristics of a child, knowing that positive reinforcement does so much better? Do we think WE are perfect?
My heart goes out to all children that are being abused, either by their teachers, their parents, someone else.. The hand that is supposed to protect them, hits them once in a while. These children grow up in fear and many of them become abusers when they are adults.. It's scary. The physical aspect of spanking is terrible, but the emotional bruises are even worse. How long does it take to spank a child? No more than 5 minutes! How long does it take for the emotional bruises to fade? Many many years.. And knowing that many of these kids are still loyal to the abuser. Just because it is so twisted and they get so mixed up. They never know when the hand that comforts and holds them, will hit them again, to give them a cuddle afterwards.
Some people even use belts to hit their young children. Those people state it is the only way to make them obey. Wouldn't you obey if someone beat the sh*t out of you??? Hello???? This has nothing to do with obedience, it's all about control versus fear. What a coward you must be, to hit an innocent child.. These children grow up in fear, they will lack self worth and they will become disturbed grown ups. These kids will mostly become parents that will raise their own offspring in a violent environment. Because that's the only way of discipline they know. Discipline is not about spanking.
People that spank are people that loose control. They freak out and they are at the end of their rope. Instead of spanking the other, they should seek help and guidance. Because they are victims as well. Don't create any more victims. Don't spank. Just don't.


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